It’s a joy buying gifts for kids, but buying for a teen or over takes genuine thought. My objective is to find something just-for-them. Last Christmas, I bought pajama bottoms and tops that were personalized to some extent– I embroidered their initials on them! And then I added other items to the packages such as CDs, books, and calendars. My husband is a clothes horse and a very picky one. However, I noticed his slippers were worn, and I immediately ordered what he already had!
The main thing to avoid is giving a loved one a gift that hints at self improvement. When daughter Janice gained fifteeen pounds her freshman year at college, a friend bought her diet soda with a cosmetic item. The 12-pack weighed on her with the grim realization that someone other than her wanted her to lose weight. It’s dangerous to buy something that points to something personal. To the reciever, the gift can bring out a shortcoming. One Christmas long ago my husband gave daughter Marla supplies to help her clean up her room! A pedicure gift certificate would not have felt like a punch in the gut. What, you think I’m messy?!