People craft– getting along

In order to get along with others, we need to find happiness within ourselves.  What makes us happy?  According to a new Harvard study, it’s focusing on whatever you’re doing, whether talking with a friend, knitting a scarf or reading a novel.  Don’t let thoughts drift.  When your mind wanders, you tend to ponder the “What Ifs” and ruminate over past experiences and worry about what could happen in the future.  By contrast, focusing on what you’re doing right now makes it impossible to think up negative scenarios.   If you want to get along in a group situation, never discuss politics or religion.  Chances are, whatever we might say on these two forbidden topics will offend someone!


12 thoughts on “People craft– getting along

  1. Friends, on the subject of the no-no topics of politics and religion, people do have their hot buttons. Last week I looked forward to a discussion we were going to have at my bible class at the Catholic church where I attend. The topic was Islam, how the religion started and the basic beliefs. After discussing the role of Abraham (and Egyptian slave Hagar who bore him a son Ishmael) whose wife Sarah banished them, we read about the similarities between the three monotheistic religions, Judaism, Christianity, and Islam. Before the end of the class, people were getting really annoyed with each other over the question, are we worshipping the same God!!!

  2. Kathleen Rowland

    Mary Alice, Jill focused on the original intent of Prophet Muhammad (year 632) after coming into contact with Jewish and Coptic (Christian) people. He preached the one-God Allah concept, that God (Allah) is the Creator of all and is merciful. Originally, the meaning of Jahad was something like our idea of the Holy Spirit– feeling moved to do good works.

  3. Janessa Breckenridge

    Kathleen, I think you misspelled Jihad. Anyway, Christians had the Crusades, and it seems a lot like Jihad of today– taking up the sword with spiritual force. Nasty stuff.

  4. Kathleen Rowland

    Janessa, thanks for the spelling correction. Absolutely, the Crusades were brutal. Another topic was “Why is Islam the fastest growing religion today?” It’s chief population centers are Indonesia (161 million), Bangladesh (100 million), Nigeria (100 mill), India (100 mill). The vast majority of Muslims are Non-Arab, but most Arabs are Muslim.

  5. Kathleen Rowland

    Mary Alice, we have 4 to 5 million Muslims in the U.S. The word Islam is derived from Salam, the Arab word for peace. One person in our class, Dexter, brought in the Koran. He’d read a lot of it and said Islam has identical dietary laws as Judaism. Surprisingly, women had more rights when the religion was new!

  6. Mary Alice Tallmadge

    Oh yes indeed. When we practiced rushing (Iota Phi Lambda) we were told to not discuss religion, politics, boyfriends, and drinking! We talked with recruits about our philanthropy projects and summer travel!

  7. Mary Alice Tallmadge

    That’s right, Reba. So, Kathleen, how was the group divided on the question that got everyone upset, are we worshipping the same God?

  8. Kathleen Rowland

    Mary Alice, the right-wing Catholics (the ones that use what they learned in non-Bible supported Catecism as a belief basis) did not think we worship the same God. They said this because to them, the Catholic God is linked to the trinity. I was among the silent people who don’t get into verbal brawls. Anyway, I liked seeing the similarites.

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