On Wednesday I brought a home cooked salmon dinner and purple orchid to a friend who lost her husband to cancer.
Losing a spouse is devastating. It brings pain and loneliness, but it also presents practical challenges that are difficult to prepare for. When someone we love has been recently widowed, we want to be able to help. However, we often don’t know how. Here are some ways to reach out to widows and widowers in their times of need.
L. had been suffering from an avalanche of challenges. Sleep deprived while she slept in her husband’s hospital room, the rollaway is not easy on the back. L. and B. were a loving but childless couple, and she was the only one at these overnight bedsides.
When her husband passed, the cumulative effect left her shocked. She is having a hard time taking care of her basic needs and surroundings. I asked basic questions– sleeping, eating, transportation, cleaning. L. is finding these things therapeutic, so she said. I think phoning, emailing, and bringing meals is important and shows we care.